We are not in the same boat

When I read this piece it really resonated with me. As CL practitioners, we realize that every person goes through separation and divorce from a different perspective and that is part of key to our success in helping clients resolve their issues within the CL process. By taking this into account, we can assist our clients reach an agreement which works for them individually and their unique family patterns. It is also useful to remember while we navigate through these difficult times. Remember be kind to each other.

WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT ...

I keep hearing that everyone is in the same boat. But it's really not like that. We are in the same storm yes, but we are not in the same boat.

Your ship can be shipwrecked and mine cannot. Or vice versa.

For some, quarantine is optimal and full of moments of reflection, of reconnection and peace. Life is easy in flip flops, with a glass of Coke or a cup of tea in hand.

For others, this is a desperate crisis. For others it is facing real loneliness. For some it means peace, rest time and a bit of a holiday.

For others, this is torture as they wonder how they are going to pay their bills?

Others are concerned about the bread for the weekend and if the pasta will last for a few more days.

Some are in their "home office" doing all they can to protect the company they work for and still do an honest days work from home.

Others are looking through rubbish bins to survive.

Some want to go back to work because they are running out of money but in the same breath they worried about a virus and they have questions about it.

Others want to kill those who break the quarantine.

Some need to break the quarantine to stand in a queue at the supermarket. Others just really want to escape.

Others criticize the government for the queue at the shop and for all the uncertainty.

Some have faith in God and are patiently praying and waiting for miracles in 2020.

Others say the worst is yet to come and that's probably our reality. Truth is life as we knew it before, is gone.

So, friends, we are not in the same boat.

We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.

And each one will emerge, in his/her own way, from that storm.

Some with a tan from their pool. Others with scars on the soul.